Start the Conversation

A Friendly Question to Start a Meaningful Conversation about Mental Health

Start the conversation: Just say "Hi, How are you?" These little words can make a BIG difference. A simple question like "Hi, how are you?" can help friends or family members open up about complex issues. With genuine concern and no judgment, you can easily support people and even save lives.

 

Follow These Steps To Continue The Conversation

 

  1. Remember These Mental Health Facts

  • 1 in 5 Americans experience a mental health challenge.

  • 50% of all mental health challenge begins by age 14, and 75% by age 24. Mental health conditions are brain-based disorders.

  • In 90% of completed suicides, people had underlying untreated mental health challenge. The earlier people receive treatment, the less likely they are to face a crisis.

  • Success rates for mental health challenge are similar to other physical health issues. The good news is that people can achieve wellness.

2. Know The Common Warning Signs

  • Mood changes, including extreme sadness, irritability, and anger

  • Excessive worrying

  • Avoiding friends or social activities

  • Changes in sleep, appetite, focus, and/or energy

  • Difficulty perceiving reality

  • Repeated abuse of alcohol or drugs

  • Intense concern with appearance

  • Inability to carry out daily activities

  • Acts of self-harm or thoughts of suicide

3. Find a Comfortable Space To Address Your Concerns

  • Choose a time and place so both of you feel comfortable. This should be in a private, safe, and neutral location.

  • Remember that you are there as a friend, not a mental health expert. It is ok to not know what to say or do next.

  • By asking someone if they are ok, you are not making their well- being your sole responsibility. But you may be able to help them get the help they need.

4. Ask Questions and Actively Listen

Often people experiencing the onset of a mental health issue feel completely alone. Never underestimate the power of you simply being there. Actively listen and look for opportunities to share the mental health facts you have learned. Here are some questions you can try:

  • I care about you and want to listen. What do you want to share about your feelings?

  • I have noticed you are [sleeping more, eating less, etc]. Is everything ok?

  • It seems like you are going through a difficult time. How can I help you?

  • Who or what has helped you in the past?

  • I am concerned about your safety. Have you thought about harming yourself?

  • Can I help connect you to a counselor or community resource that can help you?

5. Refer to a Professional

Nobody needs to be alone. If someone shares they need help, there are numerous community resources available:

NATIONAL SUICIDE PREVENTION LIFELINE 1-800-273-8255

NATIONAL ALLIANCE ON MENTAL ILLNESS - www.nami.org

911 or your nearest emergency room if any concern for danger